The following are my notes at the first part of The Crowd. Its said that this book has been one of the favorites of many influential since its original publication in 1895. Check out the notes below to see why...
Recently when browsing Amazon I came across a hidden gem of a book by Athony Jensen titled Sun Tzu & Machiavelli Leadership Secrets and I immediately become intrigued. A few days later this wonderful little book arrived at my door and I dove right in. The following are my notes on this excellent little book. You will notice plenty of typos because I take my notes in a hurry in an effort to save time. I do not go back and edit them but they are readable. Enjoy.
I see a lot of guys who simply aren't very happy with where they are in life. They often feel like they are missing something and usually they know what that something is but they also lack the understanding of how to fix it.
This article is designed to be the kick in the ass that many men need. Its a basic outline of how to achieve success in any area you desire. Its not fully comprehensive in that it wont teach you everything you need to know as one could write a book on that. This is a primer, follow it and good things will come. Ignore it and you will continue to suffer form the disease I call being average.
Success starts with the correct mindsets
The very first thing I say to new salesmen when they join my team is this: Losers make excuses, winners find solutions!
Think about that for a minute. Really think about what that means and how that one mindset can drastically improve your life.
Many guys, especially the negative guys on the internet, have a problem with this. They come to a roadblock and the excuses start flowing like Niagara Falls. Instead of hitting a road block and saying to yourself "I cant" instead ask yourself, "How can I overcome this?"
The word "cant" shuts your brain off. You have already decided that its impossible! By asking yourself "how can I" then you are now open to opportunities and new ideas. Fuck excuses. You are better than that. You were the sperm that beat out the millions of other sperm and as your reward you got to be born into this life of opportunity and wonder. Stop wasting that opportunity!
Advanced Guide to Night Game
This guide will lay out how to get extremely quick pulls from night game venues. The best type of venue to run this style of game in is medium to large size dance clubs. The following is a quick primer on how its done:
1) Dress Edgy. Learn how to dress (wearing clothes that fit, matches up with your skin tone, and makes you look more fit) and then add a sexual touch to it. This can be as easy as unbuttoning your shirt one more button than most guys do, wearing your clothes a bit tighter than most, showing off the good parts of your body, ect. You can find a more complete guide to dressing well here.
2) Have a sexual vibe. This is related to #1 and I have written about it before. Basically, be a man that is able to amp up sexual tension. Talk slow and sensually and add pauses to build intrigue, be flirty, exude strong sexual eye contact, and be in a sexual state.
3) Figure out the club’s rhythm. For example, if a club opens at 10 and closes at 3, most women wont be ready to pull until 12 at the earliest and most likely closer to 1. Women spend a lot of time getting ready before they go out. When they finally hit the club they wanna show themselves off, drink, hang with their friends, and blow off some steam. You have to let them accomplish all of this before they are ready to be pulled.
The most persuasive way to ask a question and almost always get an "yes."
First you must learn a few different techniques of how to persuasively ask questions and then you will see how to put them all together for a super effective "persuasion bomb" that will almost always work.
Why Not?: This simple technique is nothing more than asking "why not?" when someone gives you a no. Then you over come whatever objection they have and ask again. Studies show this simple trick is very effective.
Give a Reason: Studies show that when you give a reason, no matter how silly, a person is more likely to comply with your request. Example: "Can I borrow 50 dollars because I need some money?" Its obvious that you need money but because you gave a reason, studies show they are almost 50% more likely to comply.
Yes Ladder: Before you ask your main question, get them saying yes 2 - 3 times before you ask them your question. Studies show a person is more likely to say "yes" when they have already just said it a few times before. It gets them in a positive "yes pattern."
Shoot for the Stars: Studies show that a person is much less likely to tell you no twice if your second request is smaller than the first one. Lets say a kid need 20 dollars to go to the movies. In order to get that twenty dollars he ask his mom for 50. When she tells him no he responds back, "ok, well 20 would do I guess. How about 20?" His mom is much more likely to agree to the 20.
You are Free: In numerous studies it has been shown that after making a request, if a person is somewhat hesitant, all it takes to get a yes out of them is to remind them that they are free to decline your request. The science of why this works is long and complex and beyond the scope of this article but I encourage you to look it up. Example: "Mom, can I borrow 20 dollars for the movie? *mom hesitates* I'd really like it but you are free not too."
Right Ear Technique: When asking a question or even just generally persuading someone, be on their right side if possible. Studies show that when a person hears a request through their right ear first they are more likely to say yes. This isn't a very powerful one and generally doesn't work well when used by itself but is useful when using it in connection with the other techniques listed here.
Reciprocity: Some time before you ask (time varies as per situation) do something for the person whom you are about to ask a favor. Don't make it to where it will be obvious that you only did it because your asking a favor. Back to the mother example, as the kid walks into the kitchen to ask for money for the movies, he notices the coffee pot on. Before he ask he goes over and pours his mom the coffee, hands it to her, and then ask. Its a small persuasion so very little time needs to pass between the favor and the request. Studies show that when we do something for someone, the feel compelled to return the favor and do something for us. As a side note, if you are going to offer someone a drink, try to make it something with caffeine in it. Studies show that when consuming caffeine, a person is slightly more likely to go along with the persuasion.
Fear and Release: Studies show that if a person is asked a question immediately after being scared/startled, they are more likely to say yes. For example, as the kid walks into the kitchen to ask his mom for money, he yells "HEY MOM" while her back is turned. She jumps as she is startled. He immediately lowers his voice and ask, "Can I get some money for the movies?"
Pick the Right Time: Recent studies show that when a person is stressed or mentally tried in any way, they are way more likely to say yes to any request. With the kid asking for money example, a good time for him to ask would be right after she comes home for a long day at work.
Establish Rapport: This is an important one! A person is much more likely to say yes and go along with your persuasion if you have rapport with them. In our continuing example, the kid already has rapport because of the Mother-Son Dynamic but you can create rapport by body language mirroring, establishing commonalities, and matching emotional states.
Social Proof: People are more likely to go along with someone if others are going along with it too. For example, when asking his mother for money, he should mention that hes going with his friends and that their mothers gave them the money to go. When his mom realizes that the other mothers gave their sons money, she will be more likely to comply. To show how powerful social proof can be, studies on cults have shown that when surrounding a person with believers, a non-believer will turn into a hardcore loyal follower in less than a week, even when the new recruit is aware that they are being converted!
Isolation: Often its a good idea to get a person alone before asking your request as they wont be able to be influenced by outside forces, only your influence. With our kid and mom example, its best he ask her before his dad comes home so he cant chime in and influence his mother. If asked while his dad is home the dad may chime in with something like "Honey, he didn't finish his chores on time last week so don't give him any money" or something similar. Its best to be the only voice of influence when making a request.
Confidence: Simply being confident you will get a yes and not making your question to seem like a big deal will go a long way to getting you a positive response.
When you are ready to make your request of someone don't use a single technique as combining many of them together into a "Persuasion Bomb" is much more likely to work. While its very hard to combine every technique and use them at once, most of them can be combined. All it takes is some creativity and you can combine and use these techniques when you need a positive reply to your questions. Do not underestimate how powerful these techniques can be! Con men, Politicians, Salesmen, Cult Leaders, Lawyers, and many others have been using these techniques to great success for a long time now.
Also, its important remember that people don't like to be persuaded and manipulated and they resist unwelcome attempts to do so. However, people cant resist what they cant detect. Use some tact and make sure its not obvious when you use these techniques that you are trying to persuade them. The whole process should seem natural.
You can read Part One by clicking here.
Congratulations! Before we get to the nuts and bolts of phase three lets look at your new life so far after only twelve days.
- You are now the leader of a big (and growing) social group filled cool guys and hot women.
- You're the popular guy and other men want to do you favors and are inviting you to to places left and right.
- Women are texting and chasing you. They all know that lots of other women are as well which makes them chase you all the harder.
- You have an awesome club hookup and get VIP there for free every time and get free drinks and such.
Now lets grow your social circle even more while lessening the work load.
I often hear men say they would love to learn how to defend themselves but lack the proper time and money. This guide is filled with simple, proven, and effective techniques to help you better survive a fight. It wont turn you into the next UFC champ but it will give you an edge against drunk tough guys and other idiots.
But remember, street fighting is dumb and best best to the insecure boneheads that feel like they need to prove themselves. That said, every Wolf needs to know when to show their teeth to defend themselves.
I dont claim to be an expert. That said, I have over two years experiance with kick boxing and brazilian jiu jitsu. In addition, I have a close buddy who is a former special operations soldier and he has shown me many things. I also have real world experiance with street fighting. In my younger days I had a two year period where I was a total hot head and I ended up getting into a few fights because of it.
With all that said, lets begin with the guide.
THE THREAT LEVELS
1) Green - No threat
2) Yellow - A Person Is In Your Face Or Threatening Attack
3) Red - You Are Being Attacked
Ever wanted to be the cool guy that had women flock to him? Ever seen a guy in the VIP section popping bottles and dancing around with a ton of hotties? Do you ever wish you could be the guy that always has people sending him invites to cool parties and events? Need some extra cash? Read on...
Anyways, excuse the gimmicky marketing above but this guide will help you achieve all of the above. But Wait! There is more... I wrote this guide so it can be pretty much idiot proof. Follow the steps and the lifestyle of "the rich and famous" can be yours.
But seriously now, I'm going to attempt to skip the fluff and BS and keep this guide as short and concise as possible.
Disclaimer: After reading a certain step you may think to yourself, "But Warped, I dont/cant do that." DO NOT post that in the comments. Use your brain to figure out ways to overcome obstacles. Losers make excuses, winners find solutions.
What you will need:
- At least average social skills
- A few cool guy friends
- Some extra cash (how much depends on a lot of factors so dont ask)
- A place to party
- The ability to get up off your ass